A sexy bitch is coming our way!
Psychology Today published a very interesting article titled, “Why do Women Hate and Fear Sexy Women?” The gist – women with a stronger sex drive often have few female friends, and find that women tend to keep their distance from them. Such women also report that they feel men are much less judgmental of their sexual urges.
Apparently, generations of manipulati….I mean, for generations, women have been expected to repress their sexual urges. It isn’t ladylike, after all! But why not?
Theories abound. The article mentions that just seeing a woman who is not afraid to flaunt her sexuality can trigger intense inner conflicts in the straight laced types. They wonder what they’re missing out on, yet can’t bring themselves to break out of the Good Girl role.
Competition for men is also a problem. The article goes on to state that for thousands of years, all women have had to offer men is their reproductive capacity and physical attributes, in exchange for getting a man to settle down with and provide for them. That’s where the sexy ladies cause a problem – if the men get the milk for free and don’t have to buy the cow, it’ll be more difficult to find a man willing to settle down.
I think it goes without saying that women are depicted in a much more sexual way than ever before. The amount of porn available on the Internet alone is one example. And look at how many TV shows have aggressive, sexual women fighting over guys, or getting drunk and falling flat on their faces. Some people think this is progress, and liberates women from sexual and societal repression that has been holding us back for years.
I’m not sure how I feel about this. I’ve gotten the sense that the vast majority of men aren’t interested in settling down with a woman who comes off as aggressively sexual. It seems like they’ll sleep with her a few times, or begin that magical “Friends with benefits” relationship with a woman like that. However, when it comes to settling down, the straight laced types seem to win out. Maybe I’m wrong.
Not that it’s all about getting a guy. But it’s hard to ignore the way that so many societies around the world look down on overt female sexuality.
The question in my mind is whether this is something that’s dictated by society, biology, both, or something else entirely.
Whatever the reason, you won’t see me naked on the Internet anytime soon!
- Ladies Need Sex, Too (thoughtcatalog.com)